Resistance to Change & Motivation – Do you know what you really want for your health?
Tell me if you’ve thought or said these phrases before:
I want to get healthy.
I want to lose weight.
I’m tired of feeling like crap all the time.
You’ve likely said them to yourself at some point. I know I’ve said all 3 to myself. What’s the old saying…You can want in one hand and s**t in the other, see what fills up first. You might be thinking, “That’s harsh.” But here’s the deal…it’s true.
Many think about making changes. But they don’t really think about how hard those changes are to make. When they get into the change process, they feel overwhelmed and quit.
This week’s blog is all about finding your true motivation and using that to start making your health changes.
Are You Ready?
Anytime you want to make a change, it’s important to know if you’re ready and what your motivation is. If you’re not ready or don’t know your motivation, chances are you’re not going to make any moves towards that change.
For instance, I want to win the lottery. Who doesn’t! But that’s just a statement I make without having the desire or motivation to do anything about it. I rarely by lotto tickets. And if I do, they’re the scratch off kind.
When looking to make a change, ask yourself the following questions: What are the benefits of staying exactly the same right now? And making the change you’re looking to make?
Also, what are your concerns about staying the same? Or making a change? Use the below image to help you determine if you’re ready to make a change.
When I look at my pros and cons, I don’t actually know how to play the lottery. And I’m cheap. I don’t want to spend $20 or more dollars per week with the hopes I might win something. I’m more of a pragmatic girl. It just doesn’t make sense to me. But I don’t judge others that do play the lotto…because they likely know their motivation behind playing!
Before you can make a change to your health or lifestyle, determining if you’re ready and knowing your motivation helps you get moving and stay on track and take fewer detours.
Let’s chat about detours really quick. Everyone takes them. I have clients that are doing great for months on end and they just get off track. It happens.
It happens to everyone!
The best thing you can do is recognize you’re off track and work to get back on track. But it’s important you don’t beat yourself up over it. No one is perfect…literally no one. Everyone gets off the proverbial wagon from time to time. Just get back on it.
And also know this, getting back on the wagon is tougher the second or third time than it was the first. The first time, you didn’t know what to expect. You didn’t know the road would be bumpy and that it’d be hard to hang on. But now you do. And you’re cringing at the thought of the bumpy trail again.
It’s okay! It may take a little longer to get back on the wagon again. As long as each day you take small steps to climb back in. Everyone’s pace is different.
Finding Your Motivation
Okay…let’s dive into actually finding your motivation. This is important. When you’re struggling or having a tough day, you’ll go back to your motivator. Your motivator will help you get back on track when you’ve taken a detour.
When looking for your true motivation for change, here are a few questions you should ask yourself:
- How important is this change to you?
- Define on a scale of 1 to 10 how much you want it.
- Are you confident that you can make this change?
- What encourages you to make the change and stay the course?
- Why do you think now is the time to change?
- What will happen when you reach your goal?
- Why is now different than other times you’ve attempted to make a change?
Don’t just think about these questions. Grab a sheet of paper and really answer them. It’ll help you determine why you feel now is the time.
Now that you know your why, let’s set your how.
Simple uttering, “I want to lose weight” is not a goal. When setting any goal, including a health-related goal, that goal needs to be a SMART goal.
I’m not going to get into the weeds on goal setting in this blog. Because I already wrote a blog just on setting a goal. You can check that out here.
Ensure your goal has your “why” in it. So, each time you read it, you remember why you’re doing it. Your goal will also have your “how” laid out in a perfect little plan for you to follow. Here’s an example of a SMART goal with your why and how:
“I want to build my upper body strength so I can pick up my grandkids and snuggle them as I can’t pick them up right now. I will do this by going to the YMCA on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday from 3:30 to 4:00 pm each week for the next 3-months spending those 30 minutes doing upper body strength building exercises. At the end of 3-months, I want to be able to lift my 40 lb grandkids without a problem.”
See the difference?
I don’t make my clients go through the goal-setting process. Because I do it for them. I craft their goal and help guide them to that goal. If you’ve never set a proper health goal, I challenge you to do so. The clarity you’ll get in knowing exactly what you need to do is freeing!
What’s are you looking to change? Start with one thing you’d like to focus on and get moving. Work through the exercises and pick one small thing this week you can do for your health. And if you feel like you need a little extra help, reach out for a FREE 20-minute strategy session. Click HERE to book!
In the comments, let me know what your motivation for change is!